So here's an update to my sitch. On 3/8 WAS asked me to move in with her for a trial live in. On 3/16 she asked me to move out, her reason "I am definitely sure of what I want and I want a fresh start all around." on 3/17 we went for a consultation with a marriage counselor. According to her, her biggest issue now is that she doesn't want to be physically intimate which is one of her primary love languages. The finances are coming along, my weight is not an issue anymore as I look and feel like a new man (I'm wearing clothes I haven't worn since we first started dating!! From a 6XL shirt to a 2XL shirt), but she says she likes her privacy and being independent and doesn't see me in the picture as her husband in the future so she's making her decision to move on. The counselor has the same ideals as the DR, he doesn't care how we feel now, he wants to find a solution to get pass the problems we are having now to develop new feelings and those are the feelings he's concerned about. The only problem is that she doesn't want to talk about her personal intimacy issues with me in the room, and she also wants to talk to a woman vs. the guy we saw and she doesn't feel ready to talk about them now.
Now here is where I could use some help navigating the waters, she wants to be friends and we have been doing things together, for instance she called me up yesterday to help her out with a situation at her store (she's a grocery store manager) being the Easter Bunny and today we had an Easter Dinner together. We also attend church together at the same time (although we drive separately and still live in different apartments). How should I handle this? Should I continue being a good friend to her? Or the other option I have toyed with is (after I get my things out of her place, the movers put some of my boxes over at her place and vice versa) going completely dark. During our encounters I have been doing a better job of not bringing up our past and just enjoying the moment although sometimes there are questions I just want answered and before I can filter them they come out. I AM getting better at this but it is a lot harder in practice than just saying.
Some advice would be really appreciated to help me navigate these times. I am also going to go see that counselor by myself. I told her that if she wanted to come she was welcome and I would tell her the date/time of our meetings.
