cbtdad, what will you do to detach more?

For me:
1) no R talks, no temperature checks
2) stop obsessing over h & r (try to say "stop" in my head and replace with self-worth statements..I deserve to be respected,etc)
3) focus on work, and keep convo's about work

any suggestions?

M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)