You are going to one of the most painful experiences in your life, but remember to focus on who you really are (not on the left-behind part of you.) Your H sees you as a victim; and my guess is that he feels bad about himself when he is with you. You need to change that.
Also, I don't like MC at all. Mine did a lot of damage to my R with my H. I love the coaches here, but the C? Very hard to find good ones.