I can relate to your situation as it pretty much mirrors mine. You must feel panicked right now because your W is desperate to move on and get on with this new life that the epiphany brought about! Yep, sounds familiar to me! I am pretty new around here and trying to work things out myself, so all i can do is pass on some advice i have been given.
Don't panic! Its not going to help.
Learn to be patient - you will need that in the first days of being on here as it will take time to come off of moderation. But to get there just keep posting small posts.
Start to think about things you want to do to get a life of you own whilst this is going on. Some of the questions people will ask you is what your will do to GAL, and what your 180's are. To think about your 180's have you thought about what you have done to contribute to the problems in your M. It took me a while but I can now see how 50% of the issues were down to me, and I can now make sure I deal with those issues.
Anyway, somebody with much more knowledge and experience will be here soon to help you out.
Keep calm.
Me: 38 W: 35 M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs S8 D5 BD: Feb 13 Still Living Together
I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.
