Ouch Bug. No, I have not given up on my kids at all. Quite the opposite. I have been counselled that they need to learn those boundaries, and yes from me. My heart broke for them and I gave in this weekend. I am now to teach them that they need to be responsible for such things and I cannot partake. Also, W does not want me to so that is what the dynamic is. The counsellor who my W and I know clearly told me a few times, and a couple in front of her that she did this, but I let it happen. I. Fact is, it was both couselors who said to W she has unreasonable expectations, not me. This ticked her off. So they have learned this from both of us. The dynamic of her parents is so clear in this as it is obvious where W learned it. My exFIL is a sad, beaten down man who has no say. My W and kids laugh when exMIL harps at him. I always felt sorry for him. Unaware I was living it too.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
