I found Limbo Land

[Cadet]

I think that some of it is a test, but also believe that she is still 100% that this is what she needs to be happy.

I agree that this is what she thinks she needs.
It does not make it right, and validating does not mean you really agree.

She must get her own way right now.
If you dont give it to her then she will take it.

Make sure to keep your boundaries in place to protect yourself.

None of this is easy stuff, and there is so much opposite going on that it is hard to keep it all straight.

I think the best verbal response is to keep your mouth shut.
That is MHO.