Plus there must be a way to answer that is better, one that makes her believe I am getting on with life, and I don't need her, yet also does not give her extra help and re-assurance that what she is doing is right?
Speak with ACTIONS not WORDS.
Yes I would not continue the same words that you said before.
I would also not believe anything she says.
Some of it may just be to TEST you to see if you really have changed.
hi cadet
Thanks again for checking in on me.
I think that some of it is a test, but also believe that she is still 100% that this is what she needs to be happy. I know that's the way it will be for a long time, and I will hear these things for a long time. Even if it is a test, or just her being honest and open. I still struggle to know how to respond. Do I join her on this 'fantasy journey' and be honest back ie. 'yes that would be the perfect house for you'.
Sorry to labour the point, but it's something I need to get my head around.
Me: 38 W: 35 M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs S8 D5 BD: Feb 13 Still Living Together
I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.
