For a little background, besides the issues of losing her bitter Mom who disliked life, my wife also was abused sexually by her older brother. Based on discussions with W, I do believe the issues she's dealing with now are due much more from her Mom's behavior, than any SA issues with her brother.
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Originally Posted By: Mtnman
What steps are you taking to stop that dynamic in your sitch?
DB 101! Be the H that only a fool would leave. Also, stay out of her way while she's on her search to discover who she is. She wants to be independent, so I need to give her space so she doesn't feel forced to take it. We met young and she's told me she regrets never having a chance to live on her own. We all know she doesn't need to bail on the M to find herself. This will require that I play my cards right.
She's still here in our home, no longer blames me for the pain she is in, and hasn't talked about moving out in months. I think we're doing as well as can be expected right now. This stuff takes time. (way too much, if you ask me!)
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M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
