They're 10 and 14, I think those are still ages when you guide your kids through these things. They learn by watching us, not by being told or guilted into doing nice things for others.
"Hey, mom's birthday is coming up, lets figure out how to celebrate."
If you think your kids guilt you into things, they've learned that from you, not your W. We teach others how to treat us.
It also would help to look more closely at your interactions with them. Do you say things you don't really mean or hold to? Do you guilt them? Do you have unreasonable expectations? Are there lots of shoulds in your conversations with them? Have you given up because "they're just like W?"
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
