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Also, wanted to add a comment to what you wrote here.

since watching the movie yesterday and into today, i have missed X a bunch too. i think it is natural to miss our SO when we are feeling and facing pain. those unhealed parts of ourselves can really come up during our sitches and create great pain but also great opportunities for healing. i am hoping that i get through the missing today to get to the healing.

YES!! When we're in a hole, we notice all these things but it's our job to get out of that hole. That dark place just makes all our negative thoughts fester!

I suggest you make a list (wasn't it Zig who came up with a bunch of lists?). This list will be things you will do to snap out of it. First you need to identify what got you in the hole. Let's say it was the movie...

Ok so if you're planning on watching a sad movie be prepared for the water works and pull out your list and makes plans to do it ALL, if need be!

I'm a chicken and avoid the movie all together. I've been wanting to watch The Change-Up and what's that one with George Clooney and he finds out his wife cheated on him? Anyway, I deleted them on my DVR cuz I'm too freaked out about feeling sad, deep dark sad.

However when I do get sad, I quickly tell myself 'this feeling will pass. I've gotten out of this rut before.' And I DO! Everytime I do it's a little fast than before.

I hope this helps ;-)