Bklyn, I really hope I did not upset you by asking that question. I would never want that.
I asked because I can tell how you feel about yourself because I felt the same way.
And I know you dont see what an extraordinary person you are and what an amazing mother you are, too.
You know, most people in our situation would just say, he doesnt want to be married, screw him. It takes someone special to fight for their family, B. It does.
My xh was very controlling. He was very negative and never satisfied. That's who he was and I accepted it because I loved him.
But by the time the bomb dropped, I was very small. I felt like I just could not measure up to what he wanted. No matter what I did.
It took years of work for me to realize that I was worthy. I was ok. I was lovable, and kind and smart and I was a good person. I had friends and family who loved me and a son who adored me.
And I dont want it to take years for you to realize it.
Sweetie, you dont need his approval. You dont even need his love. You may want it, but, you dont need it.
The single most important person that we need to love us is ourselves. No one else can measure our worth.
B, you are kind and smart and lovable, a good mother and a good person.
