Sorry to find yourself here, but at the same time be glad you found this board. The folks here can help.
It's scary our sitch is so similar! When you have a chance read my sitch read others too and you can pick up what might work for you. Glad the DR book is on the way.
You already have Sandi and cadet that's good. Keep posting it will help tell us more about you Ws complaints you can start there.
Take care, Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.