That is my concern. I feel just as you that spending time with a counselor (unless VERY pro marriage or religious based) will possibly cause her to look at her feelings as her guide.
How many times have we not felt like doing something only to find that, once we got started on the task, it wasn't as bad as we thought? Or how many times did your spouse ask you to go to a party that you didn't want to go to and you begrudgingly went and found later that you really had a good time?
Spending all our time looking at our feelings is bass ackwards!
