Last night W turned her phone over as I entered the room. I told her thanks I didn't want to see her new boyfriend text. She said no, there's just no reason to have an unnecessary argument. I laughed and walked off.
It's already been a tough day. W is questioning everything I say as if I'm trying to get a jab in. I'm at the point of telling her to stay the h out of my house. I'm tired of the stress and the limbo.
If she wants to tell the boys and end the marriage, so be it?
Mn, The anger and confronting is not going to help your sitch. If you wish to set boundaries, (and I suggest that you do) you must do so in a calm and collected "matter of principle" manner. It needs to be about what behavior you will and will not accept from her, out of respect to you and the marriage. Don't make it about the pain you are in, or you seeking to lash back at, or punish her.
We all get tired of the stress and limbo. But is calling it quits really what you want? I don't think so. So you need to figure out how to make where you guys are right now, acceptable to you. It won't be forever.
What new things are you doing for you? Preferably something out of the house.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
