I looked at H's phone. Not only is he having sex with OW, tried with me tonight & I see he is indeed having sex with a nurse at his grandma's nursing home. I took pictures of the texts. He was with OW Tuesday night & last night. Both nights he canceled on his kids, left OW's housectellingvher how amazing she is in bed while texting the nurse how he can't wait to sleep with her.
I'm not crying. I'm in shock, frankly, I have to leave this man. I just do. I won't do anything rash this weekend. It's clear from the texts I saw, he has at least told OW he has slept with me, but no way she knows about the nurse.
I'm done. I just have to be. Happier Easter to Tallula...
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
And I'm half tempted to email both of these women these texts. So they can all see this crap, plus the texts he sends me. I'm eerily calm. I'm waiting until IZc appt Monday to do anything, but this is some suck crsp!!!
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
Wow, T, some difficult things to digest! I would be in shock, too. YOur H has some serious issues to work out.
Are you going to confront him about the texts you read?
I am so sorry you are dealing with this...it sux big-time.
It sounds like another addiction. Can't get needs met by one, so try another, and another, and another. But, doesn't realize what he needs was right in front of him all along-his wife and family!
My H has even related his obsession w OW to an addiction--like he can't get enough, knows it's wrong, but can't give it up.
But, we can't get caught up in their self-destruction. We have to take care of ourselves and our children. They have to figure it all out for themselves. Unfortunately by the time they do (IF they do) we may be LONG GONE and they will be regretful.
(((((((((((LOTS OF HUGS))))))))))))))))))))
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
Wow, Tallula! I'm taken aback by what he has done. I just can't believe that someone would do this kind of crap to others. Well, the OW should have known what she was getting. It will serve her right when she ends up finding out she's being used as a plaything.
I'm sorry you're having to deal with his crap. You made a wise move when you cut him off.
I hope you have a great Easter with safe, loving people tomorrow despite this new discovery.
I don't plan on telling him yet. My plan is to continue the weekend, see IC & a lawyer first thing next week. I'm done. If he ever gets better, someone else will have to reap that. Not me.
More than ever I see that this is all about him. I am extremely angry that my 4 year old sobbed last night and I even flipping offered to bring him dinner & he was WITH OW at his apartment. "no no. You are too sweet, but you don't need to drag the kids out..."
Yeah. I will have all of it documented. I have her texts & his to me. Lying. So, this would help with custody Should he claim he wants 50% physical. Not going to happen.
Ok, I'm not too calm. But, I am done. This is some messed up stuff.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
Hugs Tallula. I think you should line up some other help when the baby comes. You've been hopeful and hurt enough.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
I am sorry about these new developments Tallula. Wow. Its really unbelievable. Stay your course. You are so grounded. I think Ad's idea is brilliant about lining up help for when the baby arrives.
My love and support to you
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Thanks guys. My mom & sis are more than willing to come live with me when the baby gets here. They have already offered.
I guess the lawyer will also help with what financially I can do. H is almost out of money right now & we racked up some CC debt this past year. He got a huge paycut & we pretty much live paycheck to paycheck st this point. I was planning on upping my hours before BD and baby came in. So, while I have no idea how we will make it financially, I know I will figure it out.
I haven't cried yet. I really am done. I see no alternative.
But I do want to eventually let this nurses husband know what she is doing. I wish someone would have clued me in years ago. Plus, as much as I hate OW, I think I will eventually let her know too. I'll discuss all of this in counciling, but I do feel like she should walk into this eyes open. If she stays, then it's on her.
Clearly my H is a very sick man. I'm done enabling it.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
