Busting, You are amazing. You have every right to celebrate your survival - it's much more than this, too, as you know. You have achieved a level of personal insight that few people ever manage.
And your words are so powerful and moving. I want to paste them here, again, because they are so right and true, and they will help us all:
"And I stated again that it doesn't work for us anymore. I am done, and have let him go. I stated that I love him, we miss him and he completes us as a family. I apologized for my role in the demise of the M, realised that I used to engage in very destructive behaviour when I was emotional (shaming, etc). I apologised for being selfish because I expected him to take care of me, when what I have learned is that I needed to take care of me, so that I could take care of my family. And while I wouldn't go through this again, I was thankful for the journey I was placed on. "
