I just don't get it....I don't get how I can have so many positive things happening for me and my life and still be so miserable (at times) in my heart about missing my wife and family.
Why do you find it so difficult? Why don't you "get it"? Life, most lives, are very complicated and intricate creatures. Our minds are never far from analyzing multiple aspects of our daily lives to a fault. Indeed, these thoughts are usually overlapping and fighting to gain priority and significance. Add to that the highly stressing times of a major life change and we're lucky we make it through the day!
Seriously though, the thoughts and feeling you are having are natural and expected - and they can be healthy as well. It depends on the frame of mind you choose to hold and the actions you choose to take (yes, it's a choice). You sound like you are working on many positive things - keep at it. You also sound like you get dragged down by missing you family - completely understandable.
Work at understanding the roots of your thoughts, creating goals to reach for, and...and...understanding the connections and feelings we have for others in our lives don't simply disappear - nor would we want them to...
