Oh, great and wise guru Stander! Just say the word and I am healed!
ROTFLOL!! That brought a smile to my face for sure
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The MC is out on her ear, as far as I'm concerned. I'll still see her for individual therapy
Yes, IC is a great idea even though MC isn't. By all means keep doing that!
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But I don't think I can go to the brunch on Sunday. Y'see, the W tells everybody in her family every grizzly detail about this whole situation and it's just getting really hard to look them in the eye.
There are 3 versions of your sitch- your version, her version and the truth. Her relatives are getting her version. DO NOT react by trying to give them your version. Instead, react by showing them a content, happy, polite, charming you. They'll listen to your W and develop this picture of a big, scary, mean, ugly you. But then if you're around them and you show them nothing but PMA and good cheer, they'll start to question your W's version. If they ask about the sitch just say "W and I are getting along great, but we both need some time and space to think things through and that's what we're doing. She's a really great person and regardless of what happens I have nothing but respect and admiration for her." Do this and at least some will start seeing YOU as the solid, confident spouse and HER as the flaky one. Don't worry about what she is saying to them, you have no control over that. Just endeavor to show them something else!
And for heaven's sake, DO look them in the eye and do it with a confident smile!
