"I am not sure what is attainable? None of the above is attainable without H's participation. I followed Michelle's goal list too. frown"
Sigh. Again, there are many things you can do that are attainable, however you need to break them into smaller pieces. For example, make a goal to have coffee together within 2 weeks. The action to attain that would be to ask him to coffee. Simple.
You are looking too much at the "goal" which you're letting overwhelm you so much that it paralyzes you.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.