Is this specifically what he is in IC for? Sorry if you has written about this before and I missed it. It does seem positive though that he is trying to work on himself....
Yes, it is. We both see the same IC and she is our MC. We don't do MC at all now. We have only been twice together, and one was simply to tell him my boundaries or we separate.
I guess the positive is that he does know that he is the problem here. Yes, he can still try to focus on "are we right for each other", and OW helps take the focus off himself. But, in his most lucid moments, he knows he is the problem. It really is sad. Last thursday he said he has an amazing life. Great wife, kids, job, etc. But, he is miserable and can't act how he desparately wants to act. One of my biggest fears is that he will end up killing himself like his father did. But, today I won't let that fear hold me back from living my life how I need to. It's really, really sad. Living with someone who was so abused and seeing the aftermath, it's horrible. And OW has a similar backstory, so I know that is a bond with them.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
