Happy Easter Tallula !!! WOW, what made H decide to spend the weekend? What will you do in the evenings when kids are in bed?
Honestly, he'd probably move back in now if I let him. It was more my deal for him to move out. I said complete tranparency and defriend OW on FB or we separate. So, he asked if I'd be cool with him just staying the weekend. I have plans with my girlfriends tonight, so I'll come home and go to bed. We'll just play cards and/or watch a movie tomorrow night. We get along great now. Like before DB, which is why I made the boundary of no touchy feely with the wifey.
I would not blame you for not reading up on my sitch, but our R really only hit some bumps in March of last year. And even H has said that if it wasn't for his penchant for cheating, we wouldn't be anywhere near a D. It would have been a blip and no problem. That's the hard part about all of this. We each have things to work on, but for the most part we have had a great M. This person that H has transformed into since May of last year is completely new. He would never have gone 2 weeks with barely seeing his kids even 5-8 months ago. It's sad.
I am grateful for many things that have come from BD. I'm working on some of my issues, people pleasing, controling. Since I became a mom, I lost a bit of me. I'm finding that side again and it's awesome. My only hope for him is that he can grow from this. I just think it will get worse before it gets better. But pain is the touchstone for most spiritual growth...which means if I keep chosing to trudge ahead, I'm in for some serious growing. This is certainly painful!
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
