The chat of anger reminds of a conversation I had with a DB coach a while back...

If you're in a place of anger and resentment, it will come across in every communication you have with your spouse. While you may think you're acting happy or "as-if" it is still there. It may be shown in your body language, an eye-roll, or unintentional tone of voice. You have to let go over the anger and resentment.

...and now I'm off to try and do what I type. GRRRRR

M34 W35
S5 S2
T10 M6
on/off over the years including her A
Recently-
Nov 2015 bomb
Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling
Feb bomb
March-April Reconciling
May - bomb
Mid-May I tell her I'm done