About being "right" is quite the contrary. That is what she said and I was very surprised that she listened to that statement. I blurted that out and I actually regretted saying it because it came out of anger after she told me about the OM. This was during the visit when her and the kids came to Germany to visit me (1-3 Mar). I felt it was definitely a huge step backwards by saying that to her. I'm really not trying to focus on her problems, just her feelings.
I know better than that with all I've read in DR and what I'm learning in the threads about "talking my way out." I know that my actions will be more important so that's why I need to keep working on me and also take advantage of an earlier trip to see my family. An "I told you so" won't be in my vocabulary at this point. It won't have any value to either one of us. I think mindreading is what has contributed to the sabotage of our M. So I'm not interested in that.
The apology was intended to just touch the tip, yes. I mean it's not like she said, "apology accepted." I wasn't expecting that for sure. I just needed to convey to her that I finally am starting to hear her for what I've done.
I will not fall back. I'm not proud of that behavior. I've hurt the one that I loved and mattered to me more than anyone else. When I first met her, I swore she was my soulmate.
I like your suggestion of what to say to her. I'll use that.
Indeed I have work to do. I'm off to start reading 5LL now.
BTW, I asked in the earlier post if it would be a good idea for a gift for our A. What do you think? Too soon?
