She called it quits with OM. She said I was right about her "wandering without direction" and she went for the closest male to give her what I haven't. She said that she's been mad at me for many years and she feels like I've let her down. I told her that I understand how she feels and don't blame her and I did not intend to hurt her, but I failed and want to learn from my failure either with or without her.
Well great job of validating here. But be very careful of expectations, take it from me, they can really derail your efforts. You see some positive signs, you start getting lofty expectations, they aren't met and then you want to give up and call it quits. I've been there, learn from my mistakes!! Stick to your DB'ing, stick to validating your W, and stick to LISTENING to her and following through on her complaints about you. Her dissatisfaction didn't happen over night, it took months or years. It's going to take just as long for her to learn to trust you and have faith in you again. Just be very patient.
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I definitely didn't see this coming. However, the W I spoke with sounded like the W I used to know.
Drop the expectations!! You have a long road ahead and there will be ups and downs. Prepare for them. Don't jump up 10' when your W jumps 5' because then if she dips 5' you'll dip 10'.
