Back again. Last time?

[someguy1233]

Don't fret over the ring thing. She may have worn it thinking she could "use"it if other guys tried to hit on her. Ironic, I know, but whatever it was, it was for her benifit while she was at the show. It was't to make any statement to you.

If she is a serial cheater, it may not stop until she seeks help from a professional who can get to the root of the cause. If she refuses, then no matter how great you are, there's always that chance she'll pursue another A.

When this A has ended, she may want you for her rebound relationship.

Sadly, Sandi.. I think you're right. For years she blamed this on us and our tendencies. She always says it's something that failed in our relationship that causes her to wander. But never once has she made an effort to work on our relationship before wandering. She's always come back, but it takes months. Then we're good for a while until it suddenly falls apart again.

I wish I could get her to see a professional. I think she has a slight alcohol abuse problem, depression, and previously diagnosed anxiety problems.

I don't want to sound like I'm just hammering on her... I know I'm not perfect, but I'm willing to do the work.

[someguy1233]

W came home after work last night. She made us all breakfast this morning. While eating, FedEx delivered a package... It was a signed copy of the lease for our rental property.

A little background...
The house we rent out is the house W owned before we married. The current tenants are leaving the end of April. I've been working with a new management company to find new tenants. I've done all the work with out her help, which is fine.

Anyway, I hadn't told her that we found someone who passed the background checks. She got upset when I showed her the signed lease.

I said, "what's wrong? I thought you'd be happy we got someone in there right away so it doesn't sit empty."
She responded, "didn't you think we might need it as a bridge?"
Me, "a bridge for what?"
Her, "we don't know what's going to happen with us. I thought maybe we'd need it if we are living separately."
Me, "I see..."
Her, "you have thought about that?"
Me, "no. I hadn't. But we couldn't afford two houses either way."
Her, "well you could have at least told me someone was signing."
Me, "you haven't really been talking to me much lately."
Her, "I've been nothing but nice to you!" And she left the room.

So I'm guessing she was upset because she saw it as me taking away an escape option for her. Which isn't the case... We really can't afford both houses.

It also hurt to hear she's thinking about physically leaving.

She works for a while today. I took S to an indoor playground. We had a blast climbing through tubes and going down slides. I think I found a new activity to do with him on a regular basis!

[someguy1233]

W came home from work in a good mood. She wanted to go grocery shopping and asked S and I to join. I declined as I was about to start doing some maintenance on the furnace. I then changed my mind figuring it can't hurt to be positive around her for a while...

We had fun. We laughed and joked.

When we were putting groceries away she gave me a big hug and quickly kissed me on the neck.

She mentioned that she's thought about working more hours at her new part time job. She really likes it. She talked about how this would affect our budget, daycare needs, etc. I'm confused as this is talk about the future... Something that is up in the air according to her this morning (see one post above this!)

After dinner I was playing on the floor with S. W came and layed down with her head in my lap.

Confused.

[someguy1233]

Yesterday W decided we should work on a few simple home improvement projects... I hung some blinds, etc. She did some cleaning.

She decided that we need new couches. Our old ones are getting pretty gross from S. She'd like something leather that cleans up easier.

We hung out with her family for dinner. I dressed in jeans and shirt I know she likes. She commented on the pants and how they were tighter than what I normally wear. She made a comment about wanting sex "someday" or possibly another kid.

When we went to bed she put her hand on me rather than laying as close to her edge of the bed as possible like she's done since 3/25.

So... I'm still not sure what I want to do. Obviously, she has some things to work through.

I'm now debating just continuing with DB practices until she seems to really come back around. At that time I may suggest MC and Retrouvaille. If she declines, well... I guess I'll have a decision to make.

[someguy1233]

Yesterday W emailed me asking if I wanted to go on a date with her last night. She arranged to have her parents watch S.

We went out and grabbed dinner. I made sure to be up to date on current events/politics, a 180 I've been working on for about 6 months. We had good conversation.

She suggested that we need to have "relations" every day for a month. She said she read it may help her get her mojo back. She's mentioned before that she's had problems with it since S was born. I know this is something that bothers her... and it bothers me that she isn't as attracted and doesn't want it.

[leopoldstotch]

SG how are things?