Well spoke with Laurie...me see a big 180 coming here...
I am okay with allowing him to be at the home Sat and Sun morning with S, then have him drop off S to meet me somewhere or at my parents...
This might be a huge one in allowing H to be assertive...something he needs to do more...this is an issue in the marriage...he does not assert himself...so allowing him to be able to and step aside should show me some small signs that it is going in the right way.
As for him being at the house over the weekend on night...I want him to be in the home so he remember what it feels like and that it is not all bad...also to be around S...so if that is my goal at this time this is how to work on that goal...if I don't see changes in the future as a result of this I can reassess my goal..
Also discussed leaving a note to apologize for my role in how the conversation when last weekend. Laurie suggested his communication style at this time is writing and that it might be best to communicate in his style. Little hopes I expect him not to say anything on either topic but maybe be in a good mood when he arrives and with interaction.
I plan to do Easter morning with S on Saturday and Sunday we will have egg hunt and time at my parents.
