To admission of OW: "Are you happy? I just want what's best for you."
Why ask that, he's not happy he's faking it? Can you think of a response that validates but does not sound condescending?
Acknowledging the other woman without blowing up is probably enough for the first admission(not accepting just acknowledging). Are you going to set any boundaries about other woman and if so are you going to bring them up? What are your boundaries going to be?
Originally Posted By: JoyPeaceNLove
If D is brought up: "I'm disappointed to hear but I do share partial responsibility for the failure of our marriage. I trust you will do what's right. Regardless, I'm here for you."
Again that sounds condescending, just acknowledge his feelings. He is hurting and realize he is in a crisis. It sure makes it easier to deal with them. When I look at it like a crisis it makes me to no want to chicken choke her lol. jkjk!!
I think AS uses the squirrel analogy. When trying to feed a scared squirrel do you ran at them throwing food or do you sit patiently waiting for them to come to you? It's tough work, you'll need a lot of conviction and backbone but you can do this.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
