Yeah, saying it helps. Plus, he flaked out on the kids thursday night. Said he wasn't feeling good. So I had to tell them, again, he wasn't coming. I really just never thought he'd end up "this guy". So, we'll see what happens in the next few weeks. Next time he flakes I'm going to drop them off at his apartment. I know in his head he thinks he's being a good dad. In 2 weeks he has seen them 3 total hours.
S3 said the other day that he doesn't miss daddy, but I'd miss you mommy. We don't have a daddy anymore. Sigh. Sometimes I think being a capable, strong woman has it's drawbacks. H knows I'll pick up the slack, because I just do. That's who I am. Sadly, I just didn't know that he was the type to take total advantage at the expense of his children. But, we all have choices in life. These are his. My kids are blessed to have amazing men in their lives who will give them what they need. Currently, it's not their father. So, I will count my blessings that I have wonderful people who love us, and not focus on the one that can't show us the love we deserve. The universe will provide us what we need. Who am I to question what it looks like. It just is.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
