I believe Ws LLs are words of appreciation, touch in an affectionate way and acts of service.
You -believe- they are? Don't make any assumptions, get her to take the test. Women love taking tests. My W was a week from moving out and still took it. I read the questions and choices to her and wrote down her answers, then told her what her PLL was and read the description to her. You can do it without it coming off as pursuit.
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Main problem is I can't touch her.
Then focus on other LL's.
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Words of appreciation are good, but tend to be brushed off with - why you saying thank you, or I've always done that why notice now.
Ah, so you have EXPECTATIONS that she will respond favorably, and if she doesn't then what, you get discouraged and quit? Drop the expectations!! Also, WoA is not "please" and "thank you". It goes deeper than that. It has to be specific to have meaning to her. I'll give you an example from my sitch- W decorated a horseshoe yesterday for D16 as a good luck gift for her drill team tryouts. W texted a pic of it to me. I replied back with "That's really cute! You are so creative! You are such a great mom to the kids, she's going to love that!!" That's WoA. It doesn't have to be pursuit, it doesn't have to be "oh baby you look so great today" and in fact shouldn't be (unless you reconcile, then you can get a little more steamy )
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One thing W always liked was my humour - but it feels like it does not come naturally any more - or W has barriers up against laughing. This is annoying as that's the way to her heart!
There are those darned EXPECTATIONS again! You say something funny, you expect her to laugh. Then she doesn't and you say "what's the point?" She doesn't WANT to laugh. So what should you do? Keep being funny! Because I promise, she's laughing inside while trying hard to show a cold facade on the outside. One day weeks or months down the road she's going to laugh in spite of herself. And when she does, you are going to be so glad you didn't give up!
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