Ok, I really wasn't debating actually having sex with him. Don't know how I got sidetracked by that. It is a boundary that I set and maintained since we S, except when I let him spend the night 2 weeks ago. So, when he asked if he could stay over for easter, I was wondering if I would be able to decline his advances or if I should not allow it.

We spoke last night about the boundaries. I said he could stay over as long as he would please not try to be affectionate and try to have sex. That I am not in an open marriage. Since I do find it difficult to say no, if he could respect that he could stay over. If it happens again, then we will have no more sleep overs. If OW is out of the picture we can discuss that then. We'll see...

Ruby, yea, I didn't realize you guys were having sex either.

M: 9 yrs
T: 13 yrs
H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months
Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs
Dbing 12/12
S 1/13
7/13 H moved back in basement.
8/13 #3 born
10/13 still cheating
10/13 He moves across country, I file for D