I it something we see differently. I agree it is all "stuff"....but I also believe it is part of a comfortable life too. I don't think it is the most important thing in a relationship by any stretch of the imaginiation, but having a nice home, financial security, being able to put our D into any class or activity she wishes, dressing her in nice clothes, being able to take her places, having free time to spend with her, etc. is very important "stuff".
And yes, I think my W will be burdened with work, trying to make ends meet. I will as well. Our spendable money will plummit and we will both have to take up the slack. That is a given, and I don't think that scenario is unrealistic. Therefore, time with D will be even less.....less than the 50% of her life that we will be "allowed" to spend with her. I also believe my W is holding very high expectations on her future success. No, I don't believe she is going to be earning 6 figures as an insurance agent in a very small agency. I personally feel she is going to be hard pressed to live a comfortable lifestyle on her own. I feel my otlook on the future as far as finances go is grimm. I feel that it is going to be extremely difficult at our ages to find a partner that isn't emotionally damaged from something similar to what we are going through, someone who probably has children that will need to blend with our D. My future GF/W will have to like my D. I will have to like hers. Our kids will have to like each other. My Wife will have to find a similar scenario. I don't know. Maybe I am being a pesimist, but that is how I feel it is going to go down. I think those are very real expectations....
