Thanks inside...yes it is a roller coaster...I have hope they will become second nature too!
I do agree he left, I am okay with him being in the home, he is trying to take control of anything he can...funny that he can say all he wants over text or FB but when it comes to face to face or the phone he reverts back to being his old let me control self...does not help me at all...
I need to control that and allow him to talk and encourage more of him stating his needs...something that does not come easy for him or me to do...but I have seen it work with encouragement from me to ask the right questions of him...
I did call and leave him a message asking for a compromise....thinking I could come to the home at 10 or 11pm, when he and S should be in bed, have the morning and leave again and ask if he would bring S to my parents or meet me in town to switch off...
I agree he did leave, it is his choice to be bouncing from hotel to hotel room, he has the money to find a place and is choosing not to at this time, if he did have a place and was closer I would most likely have him take S overnight and in the am bring him back to the house...that would be the compromise I would have.
I tried to discuss options with H two weeks ago to which he stated he had forgotten about the holiday...now 4 days before he is trying to pull all the control. I just want to discuss and come to a compromise, not make either one of us get their own way fully but think of what will work best.
Plan to present this is the last holiday and major event til Sept when S turns two...we should be able to be adults and make it through 8-9hours of being in the same home, and only a couple of those actually being awake for.
I have left him a voicemail...I am sure he will listen to it and he can do what he may with it...but if we have not discussed prior to him getting here on Sat. I will ask more on it then.
