I'm really confused about what I should do. She's now told me that she wants to separate at the end of the school year so as to minimize the impact on our oldest. I broke down today and told her that I love her enough to not fight her when that time comes and that I want her to be happy. Even if that's without me. I feel I made a mistake saying that. The OM is half way across the country. She said she wouldn't contact him during this time and at first she agreed to call him in front of me and tell no contact for that time. Then she backed out of the call and said I'd just have to accept a promise. I'm lost, the more adamant I am the farther away ill push her. After I told her I wouldn't fight her about separation and told her I'd always love her, she broke down and cried. She said she was sorry for hurting me. This is the first time she's cried since this all came out 6 weeks ago. What should I do now?
I feel like its still possible to save us but just don't know where to go from here. She is "in love" with someone she hasn't seen in almost 20 years and only just reconnected with 6 weeks ago. I feel like its just a fantasy she can't let go of, but her feelings are absolutely real to her. How do I deal with that?
I also hear the " I love you dearly, but I'm just not in love with you" bit.
