Be civilized with STBX

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I have seen STBX way too much the past 3 weeks. The house is going on the market. He is coming by to paint, put things away. Getting the rooms ready for the carpet cleaner. I just want a few days to myself!!!

When he is around, I try to be pleasant(it's hard to stay on your best behavior 24-7), being funny, talk about the interesting customers at the bank I work at. Keeping it light, letting the girls spend time with dad. I want to to see that I am comfortable and want them to be comfortable around dad.

A few days ago, he was reluctant to leave. Hung around, just chatting. He has not paid this much attention to me as this past week. The girls snuggled up to him, he helped with d17 homework. I stayed out of the way so they can have dad "time". Did my own thing.

I figured it was better for him to stay here and hang out then hanging out with his MLC brother. lol.

I casually asked about how his brother was doing. For someone that is PA, he wanted to let me know that the girl his brother dating is a giant mess. His brother is acting like a 55 year old teenager. Insecure that no one likes him. My comment to this was,"It's hard to have others like you if you don't like yourself."

STBX says,'Hmm, that is really insightful." Ah, the irony of the situation.

STBX has showed up to D17's two school events which surprised my d and I. Didn't expect him to attend, but d17 was glad he showed up.

He's been really nice. But I am going to keep on going on. It just cracks me up that I want space.