Thanks LIS, Busting and Bklyn - my friends and constant supporters.
The fact that you are there for me is huge in getting me through this, I have no doubt.
Just wanted to remind everyone reading this of the power of 'act as if'.
STBX came over this morning to collect the kids to take them to visit his parents.
He'd sent an email the night before in his signature style (setting me up, on the record, as someone who thwarts his attempts to see the children):
"I've arranged with the kids to pick them up at 11am tomorrow. Please let me know if you are going to change their plans."
So, I refused to be drawn, and acted friendly and polite to him when he arrived. I offered a hot X bun and a coffee (no take-up) and chatted briefly about news.
He was Über-friendly and nice. Chatty even.
Maybe his L hasn't sent him my L's deposition yet.... In a couple days, we're going to be in court fighting for financial survival against each other.