Last resort time

[too trusting]

Things have been surprisingly ok since the talk we had and I've been just trying to not focus on her as much and just keep moving on with my GAL and 180 stuff.
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I've learned how I've played a part in all this but I now I'm fixing things as best I can (new job, fixing finances, being my own man, etc)

very good, keep up the good work

last week though things went back to her old shenanigans of taking of one night and sleeping somewhere and refusing to say where she went.
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Long story short we talked tonight and she informed me she's still miserable, doesn't feel that she's in a real marriage shes just here and playing nice to get what she wants from me because she has nowhere to go and she hates herself for it.

hmm, cake eating, and she admits it. what things does she get from you?

agreed to watch he four kids for the weekend. Not really a big deal for me I love having the kids to myself.

that's very good. of course, taking care of your kids is a favor to them, not her (and your responsibility, especially if she is neglecting them). besides which, you are building a good relationship with them, and they will see that you were there for them when she was not. also, being a good father to her/your kids is very attractive to a woman, even if she is in a fog right now.

She still wants out. And refuses to talk about what he did wn she took off last week.
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if she's f'ng around again I have to cut her loose.

question is, what do you mean by "cut her loose"? I don't recommend throwing her out of her own home, because that could backfire. (if she has "nowhere else to go" she might just move in with OM, and justify this by blaming you as the "bad guy" who threw her out - no matter that it was well deserved.)

however, you certainly want to avoid things that enable her infidelity. what things can you refrain from doing for her?

in the meantime, keep up the good work of GAL and improving yourself. you're not doing it "for her". you're doing it because *you are the better choice*.