RS - Just got caught up on your sitch and I have to say I'm shocked how strong a woman your W is. These last 9 years had to be very tough and lonely on her. Not beating you up at all, just pointing it out. Glad you're starting to see her side, that will help you.
Sounds like your last call went pretty well so good job validating. This has to be your main goal with future talks with her. Don't talk about how tou're improving, how you want to be better for someone else, or anything like that. Just listen and validate her and tey not to talk much about you at all. You need to figure out what love means to you but other questions I have:
What does a good M look like to you?
Why is a career more important to you than a chance at R'ing your M?
Where does your W rank in your priorities?
Have you thought about what she meant by you letting her down?
What goals do you have for you to change?
Your sitch is different, that's for sure so most things I'm asking are a little different than normal. I'm basing this on only a couple posts but seems to me the biggest issue is you've been completely detached for years and your W has felt very alone. Once you figure out a few things I think actually engaging with W may be the way to go. Let's see where this takes us.
Know this journey isn't going to be easy and the guys following you won't be holding back. You ready for another boot camp? It will change your life!
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
