good luck to anyone else who has to deal with the sleepless nights and putting up a fake front for friend and family (who would be repulsed by her actions) - but most of all for my kids i feel sorry that they don't have the parents that love and are affectionate to one another.
It is YOUR choice if you put on a front. It is YOUR choice if you do not love and are not affectionate to your W. If she is not that way toward you, you have the choice to stay or leave. But you are hurting your children by all the bitterness you harbor in your heart. You can blame everything on her, but only you are responsible for how you react to her actions.
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just another day living with her DECISION - total BS when people call it a MISTAKE....the mistake was getting caught in the DECISION they make.
I agree that it's more than just a mistake. It is a sin. Sin is always a choice. The scripture says the wages of sin is death. So, something dies when there is sin. If you could offer suggestions about who or what would die in your stitch, what would it be?
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"the biggest regret that cheaters have...being caught."
You can't speak for everyone. Getting caught was not my biggest regret. Your hatred is going to eat you alive.
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each situation is also different, i never KNEW about the affair that she hid for six months from me - it was only when i caught her with the OM wife in their lies that i knew, she was an evil witch for those six months to me.
Which part makes you so angry? The fact that she was with OM, or that she hid it? Would it have been better if she told you in advance what she was going to do and then openly conduct the A?
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forgivness sometimes is not an option if the cheater doesn't even attempt to mend any of the damage they did,
People can't work for forgiveness. They can't do enough to deserve it. It only comes by one way. It's called "grace".
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
