It has almost been 11 months since W and I have lived together. We are now taking turns living in the apartment with the kids. She wants us to file for D. I think if she wants D, it is she who needs to file. Am I wrong? (I really don't know) I am a married man trying to think and act like a married man. She is an officially married woman acting like an unmarried woman. She had OM and his kids over for game night last Friday with my kids (grrr). So, my 180s/GAL are working out, addiction recovery program, Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University (which is blanking hard when you're in limbo with your spouse like this, but necessary). We have a house that we are trying to fix up and sell before it bankrupts us (previous rental) and I'm trying to do more than my share of that work despite having full-time job (W has a couple little jobs, but mostly just works out, as she considers herself a professional athlete even though she earns <$2k/yr with it).
Mostly what I would like guidance on is how much to engage in relationship discussion? She is asking to talk. I imagine leaving her some flowers with a letter saying either serve me papers or start making better decision, but stop waiting for me to do what you want me to.
