This week she's been (roller)costin' some more. Mostly friendly and nice, but she threw a couple "you always xxx" statements my way as well as bringing up some old stuff she never complained about before. Mix in some answering-the-door-very-lightly-dressed and some teasing and boom, the rollercoaster moves on. I didn't "bite" on the teasing, but I find myself thinking about our sitch more and even dreamt about her last night. Sure feels like I'm backtracking on detachment.
Coming up on 6 months since BD, and it's true what you guys say about patience. There's just no way of telling how long these things take to sort out, one way or another.
Someone here said the other day that you should seperate the true/false of what the WAS says and brush of the untrue parts. I was frustrated about the false "you always" statement, but followed the advice and didn't take it to heart. I told her "I know it might feel that way. I get where that's coming from, but it's simply not the case" and it was left at that. I was glad to see it didn't escalate to a fight.
I guess I need to take a step back and work on detachment?
Together for 8,5 years. S2 Interest in OM. She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out. No signs of OM, not digging. Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.
