7 months since BD and not sure where to go next

[AM2012]

I have been on here posting for some time, but took a break for about a month.
Unfortunately my old stitch is locked so I can't send a link to it.
Long story short, my H walked out last September, lived with his parents for 3 mths moved back in with me for 3 months and now we are apart again. I recently bought my own house and he is living in a rental house till end of May.
We have done marriage therapy, retrouvaille, personal therapy etc.
As most, there are several reason for him leaving, but none that include an affair.

We have been apart for a couple of weeks now.
We share custody of the kids and are very civil to each other, however there is still a lot of anger and he is constantly bringing up the past and how I have hurt him.

He has mentioned that he does not want a divorce, but is really struggling with seeing how we can make it work.
He has been putting forth an effort meaning, wanting to hang out with the kids and me and calling me during the day (something he hasn’t done for years), but we end up fighting about the past.
I still want to reconcile, but I am getting to my breaking point. I don’t know how much longer emotionally I can take this. It really affecting the kids. I feel I need to know if there is a future or not. I just need some closure. I told him that I don’t know how much longer I can take this and he said “Its only been 2 weeks” I said well “2 weeks since we have been apart, but its been 7 mths for me”
We are both on this journey, but in drastically different places.

I have been doing a lot of work on myself, therapy, I took 2 weeks off to just relax. I am heading on a yoga retreat for a week by myself.
My H hasn’t done anything (well I guess in my eyes). I am heading out of town this weekend for Easter and of course he normally would come, but says he needs to reflect on his life so hes staying home. Not sure if that’s a copout or he is really going to reflect.

He told me that he set a goal of 1 month to figure things out, but he is not where he expected himself to be. (not sure what that means to be honest – whether he is afraid to move back in and the relationship fails again or that he knew he would have a clear vision that he should leave the marriage)

I will continue by 180’s, but I am not sure how much longer I can.
Can anyone share their success stories about being separated for a long period of time and getting back together and making it work.
Am I giving up too soon? Is 7 mths not long enough?
We have been apart for a couple of weeks and in those 2 weeks I have started to see some changes