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Hi! Where to start?? I've been reading this site for a couple of weeks now. I think it's time I put my story out there.

In June I will have been married for 10 years. We've been together nearly 14 years.
In December I asked my H if he wanted it to be just 'him' without me. At the point he told me he hasn't been happy for a long time. I asked him if there was an EA or PA. He denied both at first & admitted to OW pretty quick, within minutes, afterwards. His relationship started with OW 11/20/12.

It is someone he works with. H works from home & travels quite often to corp office out of state-where she is. He approached her. They have been fast & furious ever since. Some background on her: OW is divorced & has a 20mo old daughter from a different relationship she had with someone she met online after her D & an additional long term relationship before meeting her Ds father. She got D & left her other BF due to being cheated on. (ironic that she is now that woman)

He says he is trying to make a decision. He doesn't want to give up his relationship with OW, but doesn't know if he can leave our daughters. He would be moving 8+ hours away & our girls are everything to him.

He says he is trying with me as well. I've made many changes & he sees them & says that they make a difference.

His work knows of the relationship & has not been letting him travel to the corp office unless it is absolutely necessary. I believe this has helped me somewhat. I also know that it has caused strains on their relationship as well.

I know I'm on moderation & will post more of the sitch later and answer questions as they arise.

Right now I'm standing & fighting for my M. I'm in it for the long haul, but man some days are worse than others.