I live with Mr Not-So-Cranky Pants

[reachingHigher]

Hi GALbaby!

I am working through a book recommended on this forum called: "getting back together: how to reconcile with your partner and make it last".

It seems mostly a book to work on yourself during physical separation but has a lot of good stuff in it.

I came to a chapter and thought of you. It's called "now that you're back together: how to avoid the pitfalls of reconciliation"

It has subtitles like:

Common Stumbling Blocks in Reconciliation:
....You feel there are still unanswered questions.
....you're afraid of causing arguments
.....you're not ready to fully trust the new R
.....you're not yet able to trust again
.....you harbor lingering rage and resentment
.....you fear the end of the "honeymoon" phase

Making it Better this Time:
.....keep the channels of communication open
.....focus on the present
.....continue to take care of yourself
.....maintain your outside interests
.....consider counseling, individually and as a couple

There are discussions under each of these points but I thought maybe I'd list the points as I think you and I have definitely run into some of these stumbling blocks.

I hope this is of some help. Are you journaling?