I found Limbo Land

[mrtwopointfour]

Just a quick question to anybody that has been in the position I am about to describe.

From all i have read and understand - I am not supposed to tell W that I love her.

But, as I've explained on another thread part of the reason my W gives is that there has been lack of affection and she has been taken for granted. I've done this by using the wrong LLs. But I feel also this included me never telling W that I loved her enough, or how much I loved her. Of course I have been through the telling her this over and over in the first weeks. But since I have backed off, have not said it again.

How do I handle this - she knows that I love her, I have told her now many times. Do I leave it at that - or is part of my 180s, doing the opposite of what i did, telling her I love her. Surely this 180 would actually push her away more, but at the same time I don't want her to think I only told her so many times in the first few weeks because I was desperate and now I have gone back to old ways.