Don't be hard too hard on yourself, you're doing really well. Just keep up the positive changes and GIVE SPACE. Totally back off.
I backed off for months and months (for the wrong reasons, I was fueled by righteous indignation) but the results were that I had little to no communication for a long time. Now that we're starting communication again, I TRY to not let it effect me the way it used to and am usually pretty successful.
So use the time and let it rest for awhile. No more emails!
I had a friend at the beginning of my sitch that would always tell me "why would you touch the hot stove?" - but I said that to myself a lot whenever I wanted to reach out & react - don't touch the hot stove!
This sight is valuable so you can learn from other's experiences. I wish I'd been involved early on like you. I know it's hard but concentrate on yourself for now. GAL and don't feel that you have to tell your H about all your positive changes (yeah, I did that). Just be the best you and he'll notice.
