This sounds really positive! She is initiating contact with you and has ended the EA to OM.
It's so hard to know what works sometimes. It sounds like what you are doing is working.
I went back and reviewed some basics today: 37 rules, piecing rules, advice I had copied from newcomers' forum. Putting it all together and applying it to the "here and now" for me, seems to help.
And slowly....slowly...slowly.
I like the "be the better person" and like MWD says, don't forget to add humor! Wishing you the best, Keep on updating, rH
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway