Thanks A.S, thats what i needed to hear - its spot on.

What you have just said has help me make sense of all the things i have learnt over the weeks, that W never wants to go back to marriage we were in because it made her miserable. I never want to go back there, I was not happy either in hindsight.

But also that even though I need to put that M behind me - by getting a life, making myself attractive to wife through being independent and confident, there is a chance that we can meet again, have a new relationship and marriage.

I will keep coming back to this as a goal - thanks again!

Me: 38 W: 35
M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs
S8 D5
BD: Feb 13
Still Living Together

I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.