Suckerpunch stage 3

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Our "friend" hit my W right between the eyes with this and said she was being allowed to stay here and being given support by "suckerpunches" good graces. She should not disrespect that. This is pretty much the whole story.

SP, I think we talked about his a long time ago. Back then you seemed intent on putting her on the street because she was taking advantage of the situation. That's really not changed, has it? I believe I recall you said she worked really hard and was taking tests to improve her work situation so that she could make more money. You recognized that because of her current work situation she wouldn't be able to find a decent place for her and D. Am I right? What happened to that guy?

You're in a M, no matter how broken and part of the contract is that you share jointly so If the marriage is no more your W will get her share, right? If you control the money in your household now she probably does need you to give her "support" money in order to move somewhere else.

I pulled some phrases out of your last couple of posts because they jumped out at me.

"but I DID chew this friend out in a big way"

"I have not lashed out at her or made any demands or accusations."

"I confronted him."

"I in no short manner, told him to get the F out of my life and if he knew what was good for him he better have ZERO contact with her"

"That is NOT going to happen on my property."

"Our "friend" hit my W right between the eyes with this"

The language you use makes me think you still have a lot of underlying anger, and I understand that, we all get angry but you react consistently from that anger. Why? Is it your pride? Your loss of control? Your W has hurt you and you want to hurt her?

By holding on to the anger and reacting to all these different things you're allowing your W, the ?OM, your friend to control you. You seem like a ball in a pinball machine (remember those?).

How can you change that?