It's your child's birthday and she is only 3 once...do what you had originally planned...the park and the princess thems sounds wonderful for a child her age. Besides, there's no guarantee that it will rain on the day you plan to have it...
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
B, I am non confrontational also. It stinks sometimes, doesnt it? But when it comes to my son, get the heck out of my way - LOL!
B, sounds like a good 180 for you. No need to be confrontational, though. But you can tell want you to plan to do in a straightforward way.
"H, I've decided that I really want this princess party for d, so that is my plan. I know she'll love it. I hope you decided to come to my house if it rains, but it is your choice."
I always think about you Brooklyn glad I found an update. You sound like you are in a much better place!! So happy for you
I am soo nonconfrontational also but I say plan the party you want to plan. Let H know about it and if he doesn't come it is on him not on you. Focus on your D and how she would want to spend her bday
I get it BK and do what you think is best for you and your girls but I agree w/ the consensus.
Don't own your h's feelings. If he feels awkward then he can deal with it however he wants to deal with it. But his feelings shouldn't come before what you think is best for your daughter, IMO.
I've had to go to events/party's at my stbx's for my kids and it may have been awkward but nothing would stop from doing what I felt was in the best interest of my boys.
Good Luck and I'm sure it will work out great cause they have an awesome mom.
H I really want to have this princess party for D2, she will only be 3 once. Also there is no guarantee that it will rain and we would move indoors.
We will both be parents to the girls for a long time and I think its important that we learn how to co-parent together and get along.
I hope you will reconsider.
-- I am so proud of myself for sending this. It was scary for me to stand up for myself to him. I still want his approval, even though I know nothing I do will get his approval - I need to do what is right for me and the girls.
I cant thank you guys enough for your supportive feedback. Seriously. Thank you
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
