Once again, a fantastic post with lots of insight, 25!
What I meant by "keep on keeping on", was that I will continue to work on myself and make permanent changes for the better. I am not going to let this experience sink me. I won't become a bitter unhappy perspon because of this. I am going to work on my flaws, improve my attitude and become a better man. That much I am commited to.
You really hit the nail on the head regarding my pride. My pride is talking right now. Let me explain what happened that "friend" was so upset about and why he lashed out. Early on, just after BD, there was a pos OM in the picture. I am not sure if anyone recalls this, but it was a family member of a friend of ours. He was recently became a LBS himself. However, he was spending hours a day, at all times of the day and night speaking with my wife. I hardly know him. At one point he was even in MY house having dinner with my family, as well as his children. I foind that inappropriate and I confronted him. He assured me there was no funny business going on. I asked him to step back and no longer talk with my wife until our situation was sorted out. He agreed...then he continued to talk to her as much as ever. They were literally spending hours on the phone every at times like 1:00am. It just didn't "feel right" to me. After a few more interactions that seemed very suspect, I in no short manner, told him to get the F out of my life and if he knew what was good for him he better have ZERO contact with her.....that was around New Years. He was in my apartment, with my W and my child, along with his children this weekend. "Friend" found out about this and that is what started the recent fiasco. Now, I can live with W doing whatever she feels she needs to do. I CANNNOT deal with a man who gives me his word and then sneaks around my back. That is NOT going to happen on my property. It may be my pride, but right is right. What he is doing and how he is handling himself is wrong. Our "friend" hit my W right between the eyes with this and said she was being allowed to stay here and being given support by "suckerpunches" good graces. She should not disrespect that. This is pretty much the whole story.
What I meant by W telling "everyone" was, our close friends. It has been 2 days. W has told roughly 6 to 8 people about her intentions to file for divorce and move on.
